That’s the whole conundrum of invoking God as the singular rationale for or against public policy—God says lots of different things to lots of different people, and all of them think that they’re right.
Melissa McEwan, “MREWYB“, Shakesville.
Yup. Melissa McEwan is there talking specifically about “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”, but her point is broadly applicable.
This is, actually, an under-researched area, but here’s a start:
The top three results for why people tried to change their sexual orientation included “To be a better Christian,” “I believed it was what God wanted me to do,” and “I feared I would be condemned by God.” After that comes such responses as a general desire to fit in, cultural pressures to conform, and a desire to please family and friends. But beyond the numbers lie the written responses of survey participants which illustrates the huge variety of their experiences
Question 8 asked why they quit the ex-gay movement. The top answer, by far, was that they failed to become straight. But one disturbing answer given by nearly a quarter of respondents was that they had had a nervous breakdown.
Only a relatively small minority of this particular sample, less than ten percent, say they weren’t harmed by their participation in the ex-gay movement.
The National Organization for Marriage has been spreading a host of falsehoods about research into same-sex parenting. Every so I often I lob a tweet about this to Thomas Peters, NOM’s Communications Director. He never replies, which is a shame, because I’ve always wanted to know what he’d say when confronted with these blatant…inaccuracies.
Well, Rob Tisinai finally managed to get through to Thomas Peters. Anyone want three guesses on how he reacted? Well, here’s the answer:
So now I know what Thomas Peters will do when confronted with NOM’s falsehoods: He’ll act like facts don’t matter.
My my, what a surprise!
Peters’s response isn’t surprising either.
Any relationship you have might be good enough for civil unions, but not for marriage.
At Box Turtle Bulletin, Rob Tisinai talks about why having marriage, not just civil unions, is important:
I have to think segregation of straight and gay relationships has a detrimental effect on gays. It denotes the inferiority of gay relationships. It leaves gays with an attitude of futility when it comes to commitment.
Compare also the Supreme Court brief by Olson and Boies.
Add to this Timothy Kincaid’s remarks on how legally confusing the current patchwork of laws are:
This year Ireland, as part of its new civil partnerships law, decided to recognize marriages – and similar institutions – from other nations as civil partnerships within its borders.
Ireland didn’t miss any country which recognises same-sex marriage, but it did miss various other “civil union” and “domestic partnership” arrangements, even some which were identical to marriage in all but name. Terminology: it matters.
I have no idea what it’s like to be a trans* person in Indonesia. According to this report from the BBC, many of them are prostitutes. This can happen when prejudice against trans* people is so harsh that it’s all but impossible for them to get any other job. But it’s not a job for life. And that is why Yulianus Rettoblaut (known as ‘Mami Yuli’) has set up a home which provides food, shelter and skills training for elderly transgender people.
Buzzfeed has a round-up of rather nice thoughts about love and relationships from twelve partnered gay people.
Many Muslim politicians in Europe are actually at the forefront of the struggle for LGBT-equality.
However much Muslims may disapprove of gay sex, opposing discrimination on principle serves the interests of Muslims and gay people alike.
Here are three stories. They’re about about discrimination and they’re about about gay and trans people.
Maggie Gallagher rebuts Maggie Gallagher, in which arguments purportedly against marriage equality actually appear to work better as arguments for it. (This leads to a comment thread on the subject of adoption, which I feel to tired to take in right now.)
Appeals court finds for Palm Springs cops, not “filthy mother-fuckers and cocksuckers” (the original has a bowderlised title, to keep the website on the good side of web filtering software), in which courts don’t see a problem with police entrapment and homophobia.
Transman files complaint against spa, in which I’m confused. This article is possibly transphobic (I don’t think it is, but I could well be wrong); some of the comments certainly are. But the issue it brings up is interesting, and I really should be diving into the comment thread (which is very long for BTB), reading everything, possibly posting a little myself, and at least thinking about the relevant issues. I’m not. I’m tired.
Jeanne Manford, founder of PFLAG, died today. She did an amazing amount of work (and created a well-known brand in the process: everyone knows PFLAG). Jim Burroway at Box Turtle Bulletin called her “our mom“.
Not content with describing same-sex marriage as a “threat to world peace”, Pope Benedict XVI has gone on to say that it “destroys the very essence of the human creature“, and make increasingly incoherent and confused remarks along those lines.
And so, as it did before with slavery and is still doing with feminism, the Catholic Church proudly places itself once more on the wrong side of history.