And I see no reason why I should be.
Many many people have pointed out that a call for politeness, for some kind of superficial niceness, actually rarely serves to make the world a better place, or to deal with any kind of injustice. Often, in fact, it is a form of victim blaming, and/or an excuse to maintain the status quo.
Martin Luther King:
You deplore the demonstrations taking place in Birmingham. But your statement, I am sorry to say, fails to express a similar concern for the conditions that brought about the demonstrations.
We know through painful experience that freedom is never voluntarily given by the oppressor; it must be demanded by the oppressed.
… the white moderate, who is more devoted to “order” than to justice; who prefers a negative peace which is the absence of tension to a positive peace which is the presence of justice ….
Dianna E. Anderson:
How can I not take that personally?
For me, the discussion can never be abstract. ….
Because for me, it’s not just for funsies. It never will be. It is too real, and too personal for me to discuss it “for fun.”
Scott wants you to understand that she’s not at all like the infamous homophobic preacher Worley. She’s totally different.
Worley wants to deny LGBT people their basic civil rights and legal equality because he hates them. Scott wants to deny LGBT people their basic civil rights and legal equality for other reasons.
See? See how very different they are? Same result. Same vote. Same fundamental discrimination enshrined in law. But Worley is mean. Scott is nice.
Look, here’s the deal: It doesn’t matter if you think you’re a nice person. And it doesn’t matter if your tone, attitude, sentiments and facial expressions are all very sweet, kindly and sympathetic-seeming. If you’re opposing legal equality, then you don’t get to be nice. Opposing legal equality is not nice and it cannot be done nicely.